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[stassi siminski]

[stassi siminski]

"Dating diaries, November 4th. It's been the week from hell. First I was sick and couldn't go to work, and whilst a couple sweet guys sent me food and supplies, I didn't hear a word from the DJ. You know, the same DJ who asked me to be exclusive a month or so ago, only to say I'd have to give up my social media?  Some of you have started to correctly guess who he is in the comments so I've blocked his name. Listen guys, I love how much you'll ride for me, this community means more to me than you'll ever know. But if the guys end up getting doxxed the fun will have to stop, I'll have to go back to just doing OOTDs, it'll be a real tragedy. So whilst it's so satisfying to think of you guys flooding his socials with hate for all the incessant gaslighting he's done, I also want us all to take a step back and breathe. Remember, I'm only giving you one side of the story, the one that's mine to tell. So I was feeling sorry for myself when I agreed to a date with a new guy, let's call him Josh. Josh is 6'2", he's a screenwriter based mostly in LA so I knew it could never be serious, but wow, it was a good date. He took me for drinks and on to the club after where he met some of my friends, something he took in stride - impressive, because they're an intimidating bunch. We've been texting every day since and though he's gone back to LA, he'll be back here seeing family for Thanksgiving so who knows, maybe we'll meet up again. In the meantime, let's all collectively wish the DJ the worst."

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"So, it's done. Really done this time. If we're being honest, things were doomed between DJ and I from the start, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't have some fun with him along the way. Did he lead me on? Yes. Did he make me think we were more than we were ever going to be? Undoubtedly. But I was warned about him and I decided to be stupid and dive in head first, so I guess on that one I have to hold myself at least partially responsible. We weren't exclusive. He dangled that in front of me a few times, only to snatch it away at the last minute - he'd make a throwaway comment that obviously I'd have to stop doing Tiktok, or that even if we were exclusive, we'd still explore ethical non monogamy. It was like I had to read the small print. When I pointed out that for me exclusivity and ethical non monogamy are mutually exclusive, he made me feel like some kind of idiot, like I just wasn't sophisticated enough to get it. Then he made out with another girl. Which would be one thing, except I was in the room, and the other girl was one of my supposed friends. But that's a story for another day. Worst of all for me is, this all went down at Bodega. As you guys know that's my one safe space, and sure, maybe I was naive bringing him there with me, not least of all because it ran the risk of outing him. But in the end he's the one who brought all the attention on himself and he got himself barred in the process. I know it must bother him so much that there's somewhere so hot that he can't get into, and now I just need to make sure I say the same for my bed. As the old adage goes, when someone shows you who they are, believe them - I'm going to try and do just that moving forward.  Kisses."

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ANSWERING YOUR COMMONLY ASKED QUESTIONS posted 12/29/24 at 3:02am "I get asked a lot of questions by you guys, many of them frequently, so I thought it was about time I gave you answers. Thanks to everyone who asked questions specifically for this video. How old am I, where am I from, what do I do for work? I'm twenty-five, I'm Brooklyn born and raised and I work the door at a club here in the city. I also do get some collabs and PR from these videos, but I work at least four nights a week and help out my friends now and again too. Have I ever gone out with a guy because I thought he would make good content? Never solely because of that, no. But it's a big contributing factor. For example, if I match with two guys and they both want to go out on Tuesday, one's an investment banker and one's a plastic surgeon, I'll go for the surgeon because I haven't dated one before and it'll be more fun to talk about-- surgeon storytime coming next week, by the way. I work nights so my free evenings are precious, I don't want to be bored. Biggest red flags to look out for? I'm the worst person to ask this. If he talks about hooking up before you've even met up, obviously do not go on that date unless that's all you're looking for. I personally hate finance guys but your results may vary. If he's hard to Google there's always a reason for that and it's seldom good. Do I sleep with the men I go on dates with? No. Not on the first date, anyway, and most of the guys you see on here are guys I go on one or two dates with. Never say never but it's not my priority and I personally find it changes the dynamic for the worse. Am I dating to marry or just for fun? Somewhere in between? I'd like to have a serious relationship. Have I been in a long term relationship? Yes. I talk about my ex on here, if you scroll back. I'll post an update video if there's interest. Do I have any bad dating habits of my own? Drinking too much. Either I'm doing it because it's awkward, or because I'm having too much fun-- either way it leads to bad decision making. How will I spending NYE this year? Working, as usual. Do guys get cringed out by my content? I'm sure they do but that's none of my concern. Those are the main ones, I think. If you have any more feel free to ask here or on Instagram, I reply to almost all my DMs."

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DINNER WITH THE EX posted 04/02/24 at 1:55am "Is it cringe to apologize for being gone? It's not like I think you're all waiting on my updates with bated breath. Still, if you are, then I apologize for my absence. I'm here to make it up to you with my quarterly bad mistake, better known as dinner with The Ex. He was extra pissy tonight. Pulled up my TikToks and pointed out what a dumbass I am, which is a hobby of his. Actually his takes are pretty similar to some of yours; DJ's using me and I was stupid to go along with it, Bodega Boy is hanging around trying to - and I quote - 'get his end away' (who says that?), and Nepo Baby has more girls on his roster than I have prescriptions (that's a lot, in case you didn't know). Yawn. He's engaged now, by the way, and didn't take kindly to me asking if his fiancee knew about this dinner date. God, I am so close to outing this man, you truly have no idea. Didn't help that he was being his usual misogynistic self, bitching about how some girl at work has "gone mental and left me with all her work". He's a peach. So, why do I do it? Well, dear TikTok viewer, I keep thinking something will have changed. I don't know. It's not really my business whether or not he's improved himself. I can't tell if I meet up with him hoping to see a man who's become worthy of love, so I can apply understanding retrospectively, or if I want to keep reminding myself of what an asshole he is to punish myself for ever wasting so many tears on him. Does that make sense? I'm probably being dramatic. Anyway, he picked up the hefty tab and he walked me home. He suggested stopping in at Bodega for a nightcap, but I could see a few ways that would go, none of them good. Besides, he had an early start the next day, as he always loves talking about, usually pointing out that he's got a, quote, real job. For those of you new here, he's a Wall St asshole, and backs up the stereotype in every way. So. Maybe I'll out him, maybe it's just time I blocked him and moved on. Besides, I'm seeing someone new and it's probably time to let bygones be bygones. "

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INTRODUCING... posted 06/18/24 at 2:31am "Hello again. Sorry it's been a while, I've been busy. I'm sorry to everyone who's messaged me after that live, after my posts, etc. It all got to be a lot. Based on that, it feels silly to give the latest prospect a nickname but I'm going to anyway, introducing... Goth BF. The Reddit detectives won't have to work too hard to figure this one out. If you were going to look up bad boys in the dictionary, wouldn't rockstars basically be the definition? Drug addled, always on the road, drowning in groupies... maybe all those things are true, but this one came to New York to see me, he took me to museums and told me things I didn't know and he kissed me like he liked me, like I was a person and not just a fuck. The bar may be on the floor but I would be lying if I said I didn't get butterflies. After the museum we went for a candlelit dinner at Sailor, where I've been meaning to go forever and where everyone turned their heads and pretended not to know him. I caught a few people taking pictures, which is fun and honestly a little unnerving, I couldn't live like that. In other news I don't have much to update you on. On that Reddit post, all I'll say is exes are exes for a reason and you shouldn't believe everything you read. I've managed to keep away from the DJ so snaps for me, and Bodega Boy is... very much himself.  Until the next time."

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HELLO AGAIN. posted 08/27/24 at 3:58am "Guess who just got in from a date and decided to edit together a video for you guys still tipsy? Me, it's me. If I sound a little merry it's because I am, and if I sound a little giddy it's because I had a great time. My date works in the music industry, and no, he's not featured here before, though now I can see kind of a music theme... producers, DJs, rock stars... I think that's more a function of my nocturnal hours than my taste, though maybe I'm being delusional. Wouldn't be the first time. Anyway, back to this guy, who we'll call.. Diego. Diego and I knew each other before this date so I wasn't sure what to expect, but he swept me off my feet in the best way.  We started the night with drinks at the Beekman, I can never say no to that, it's a classic for a reason. Then we hopped in a cab and went to Ikigai, since I had just mentioned craving Japanese. God knows what he had planned or how he got a reservation, but the food was unreal! Duck isn't usually what I'd go for but it was the highlight of the meal, so citrusy and fresh, if you go you should for sure order it. The food just kept coming and since I already knew him I didn't think it would be too cringe to ask for the leftovers to go. He only made fun of me a little bit. The conversation flowed so easily and it's funny, it did feel date-like even though I've hung out with him before, even one on one. But we ended up staying out and going for more drinks at some bar near the restaurant... the barmaid there decided she hated me for some reason, for real I won't show her face but you should have seen the stank eye she gave me... but it didn't even matter, we couldn't stop laughing. At the end of the date he dropped me home, giving me my doggy bag that I'd almost forgotten in the bar. I had half a mind to invite him up but things are already complicated so I decided to call it, so we said goodnight and here I am now, talking to you lovely people. Oh, he's just texted! He's home safe and had a good time. Aw. I'm going for drinks with the Goth BF next week, since he's in town. Will keep you posted on that too, though maybe then I'll wait until I've sobered up before recording. Though you never know. "