. wolf moon

[jack kearney]

Jack My folks are *supposed* to let me and Sylvia run the kitchen this year but we'll see if they do. History aside it's my favorite holiday. Not always, no. You really understand someone during high-stress situations like big changes and conflict. We fight and clash sometimes - usually about little stuff like miscommunications or habits, not fundamentals. Women also think and speak differently than us sometimes, you know? Last fight we had, I was being supportive but not in the way she needed. She didn't want my problem-solving, she just wanted to vent and commiserate.

[pat bohannon]

Pat That's a whole lot of trust. And yeah, feel like I remembered that. Still a Christmas guy over here. Or St. Patrick's day. Sometimes I feel like you're 20 years more mature than me. When did that kick in? Sometimes I have to remember Stas is 25, too.

[jack kearney]

Jack I'll report back, we're expecting fourteen heads so far. Oh easy one, being our very own patron saint. Hey man, I was raising two kids and running shop at 15. I've doubly aged. What's the thing you two struggle with?

[pat bohannon]

Pat 🫡 It's my holy duty. Yeah guess so, meanwhile I was being a menace around the bar. No wonder I ended up here. Eh, I dunno. Sometimes I think she's waiting for me to be one foot out the door, or just tap out when she's going through a tough time. Which does get hard because sometimes I don't know if she is. She has...had, maybe, I don't know...that dating series on TikTok and I was fine with her still doing content for it while she figured something else out because I know she makes money off the views. She didn't like that either. Then the other night she told me she loved me and it caught me off guard, because it was a weird night and a weird time. I panic said 'love you too' and she effectively blocked me out for a week. It's not that I don't love her either, I genuinely think I do. I just feel like so much of our relationship and milestones have come because of pressure, or other things. I'd want her to know I meant it on my own.

[jack kearney]

Jack Taking up the gauntlet. We're lucky we have good parents too, I think. It's a compliment to be compared to mine. Has she had difficult relationships in the past? If so, when you step out of the mold it probably causes some static. People often stick with what they know for better or worse. Maybe the Tiktok stuff isn't about the content itself but some insecurities or unmet needs? Must be frustrating, it sounds like you show up and support but it doesn't always land. Or how she needs it, anyway. And the icing out doesn't exactly help. Ouch, been there with the "love you too" trouble. It's not the end of the world though. Is it easy to talk between you two, really sit down and hash out feelings or expectations?

[pat bohannon]

Pat Same to mine, wouldn't trade 'em. Oh you're a therapist too now, huh? Yeah I don't think she's dated someone that hasn't treated her like shit, honestly. It's a lot of figuring out what she likes and dislikes and both come with extremes. Which I can manage, just sometimes exhausts me too. Her sister helps. We don't really talk like that, it really all is newer in terms of something more concrete. She baits sometimes and waits for me to bite. And weirdly I think it upsets her when I don't? Just isn't worth it to me.

[jack kearney]

Jack Manager, defuser, mediator, all of the above. Drives Sylvia mad sometimes. Sounds kind of... I don't know, explosive and up-and-down? That's tough man, and you're right, the age probably shows at times. Do you know what either of you want from a relationship?

[pat bohannon]

Pat Look - I like her, I like being with her, she's usually who I think about first these days when I'm making decisions or plans or see something I want to tell someone. I think that's where I'm at and I don't really feel pressure to push it this way or that right now.

[jack kearney]

Jack That's awesome, sounds like love to me. I hope you guys hit the right balance, everything is still new. Just talk to each other, get ahead of the "love you" thing.

[pat bohannon]

Pat Yeah yeah I'll figure it out. Been a long couple weeks. What about you, give me one of your woes so I feel better.

[jack kearney]

Jack You're a good guy, you got this. Listen to your gut. There was a little friction during the move, she has a shorter temper than I do. Just bickering about where things go and why, efficiency versus comfort, yada yada. Nothing crazy, we actually have this really silly tradition we do when we're being snappy.

[pat bohannon]

Pat And what's that?

[jack kearney]

Jack I found a party hat in one of the boxes and put it on. She was getting frazzled in the other room and was mid-complaint when she saw me and burst out laughing. So now if someone's snappy we put on the hat and try to complain with a straight face. Just reminds you how silly some things are.

[pat bohannon]

Pat Cute. Good quality to have to, someone to laugh through life with. She'll be a fun one to add to the family. When you lot are ready, of course.

[jack kearney]

Jack Patented relationship tool right there. She fits right in with the Kearneys. Here's my vision: propose in 2025, marry in 2026, start a family after that.