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[drew nickford]

Drew Let them build it themselves, entertainment for hours. Absolutely, you shouldn't stay either way if it's not right, regardless of someone else. However I can support you, I'm here. It could go better than you think, and if it doesn't, you are still surrounded by love. And the possibility of trying again with your HS sweetheart? Ugh, stop.

[samira deol]

Samira Oh, right. What is that saying? If you lead a horse to water? Yada yada. It's just...a lot. In a short amount of time. Unwinding a shared home and the families and our jobs and the dog. It sounds alright in principle but factor in my hours and the mountain is Everest.

[drew nickford]

Drew It's like the dancing fruit baby stimulation videos, but for men. I imagine you're probably going to wait out the holidays? Easier and kinder. College Drew would've told you to start a bunch of fights and make him want an end, walk him right up to your conclusion.

[samira deol]

Samira I bet children's YouTube videos genuinely entertain them. Ideally, yes. A lot of face time during then, and things already planned at this stage. I guess talking this out has really has helped me too - one thing does not mean the other. In a good way. I don't want to leave Ravi for Aaron. Or maybe I do. But I more so have realized it is stagnant.

[drew nickford]

Drew I'm going to try it on Marco later, I'll report back. Exactly. You've put in the time with Ravi to realize he's not your person. Great man, love him always, want him to be happy too, etc. Maybe Aaron is your person. And maybe not, that is a risk too. But ultimately it's for you and your happiness to find that out.

[samira deol]

Samira He seems like he would take Bluey seriously. And I won't know if I do not try, I know I know. Aaron I feel I... would lose so much more if I lose him entirely, you know? That is another worry.

[drew nickford]

Drew It seems like more adults than kids are obsessed with that show. My sister loves it for hers. I know it must be scary walking away from that safety. With as much history as you have, do you think that could happen?

[samira deol]

Samira I've actually heard it teaches good life lessons in a relatable way? I mean we basically broke up and that man enlisted. So!

[drew nickford]

Drew Apparently! Really wholesome progressive stories, love that. I'll catch up on it when it's mom time for me. Aw but babe that's not on you.

[samira deol]

Samira Which is when, exactly? It was for me, unfortunately. Like I said, very intertwined. It would be tougher to unwind from him than Ravi and that is saying something about a guy who hasn't been around as consistently in these later years.

[drew nickford]

Drew I'm going off BC in the new year. I want to reset my hormones. Ok talk me through the very best outcome, and the very worst outcome.

[samira deol]

Samira Ok so next year then?? Did you do a pros and cons before you married Marco?

[drew nickford]

Drew It's possible! But if we're planning then I think spring 2026 would be cute. If I had any hesitation it was if I was too young to get married. My mom said to marry the person who makes you laugh the most. My grandma said you should marry the one who will see you at your lowest, like in birth and grief. Love the variety, right?

[samira deol]

Samira You never know when it could happen. The wild journey of pregnancy. Not one set of guidelines to fit every situation, yes. Best case is happiness, worst case is loneliness, if we keep it high level. But both are always possible no matter what, you know?

[drew nickford]

Drew Watch it happens the first week. Absolutely. The ebbs and flows of life. Do you have a pros and cons list going?