ANDERSON, ava i.

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AVA IVY ANDERSON .  TWENTY YEARS OLD NJ NATIVE  .  NEW YORK CITY DWELLING FORENSIC BIOLOGY MAJOR . BARISTA - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ reddit.com/r/relationship_advice I'm [20F] obsessed with a regular customer [21?M] at the coffee shop i work at, but think he has a gf submitted 2 days ago by betsybraddock Hi corner of Reddit I'm not usually found in... I know the obvious response is to get over it but please hear me out. I'm at college in NY and obviously broke af because of it, so I took up a barista job at a cafe in Queens maybe 6/7 months ago. It's a really residential area so we get lots of regulars, I really love it, I know this is cliche but it's such a mix of people and I've loved getting to know all these people I otherwise wouldn't really have had a chance to meet. One catch. There's a guy who used to live across the way (he's moved, i think, either that or he's avoiding me... god, i sound so self obsessed), he'd come in all the time and we've become real close. Like actually close. He goes to NYU too, is about my age, we have loads of shared interests like coding and gaming and comics etc. So far so normal. But he really did come in a lot, and spend a lot of time there. Colleagues have said when he comes in and I'm not around he walks back out again, or gets his coffee to go. We have nicknames for each other!! I really love hanging out with him and sometimes stick around after my shift just to spend time with him, but we've not taken it outside of the cafe. Catch is I've seen him with the same girl a lot. I think she lives here now because I always see her with the guy he shares (shared?) an apartment with, but I don't know, I've seen her and my (i wish) guy looking way closer than her and this other dude. I know I should let it go but I can't stop thinking about him all the time. This doesn't normally happen to me, I swear! I don't want to be a home wrecker but what if she's not his girlfriend after all? Should I broach the subject or let sleeping dogs lie? thanks everyone x Hey betsybraddock. I don't typically reply to these, as I think they're better off in a Cosmo forum or maybe Buzzfeed. But I recently watch a slew of 90's Tom Hank/Cruise movies [for no apparent reason], so you can basically call me an expert on love. I have a few theories regarding your dilemma. Most of them have very little to do with you and a lot to do with the obvious love triangle going on with the friend, the girl and the customer. You see, you're not involved in the triangle because then it would be a love square. A love square doesn't make any sense, because a love square is a solution rather than a problem. If it were a love square, the barista could partner off with the customer and the friend with the girl. My main theory is that you are a ploy in the customer's plot to get the girl. By going to the coffee shop and having conversation with you, he's making the girl jealous. This is why you're seeing her more frequently now. She's making sure you don't steal her man. Which you shouldn't, because cheating is the worst sin. Worse than murder. Usually murder is provoked and deserving. My second theory is that he enjoys your coffee so much that he wants to share it with his friends. This is why he brings the friend and the girl. I know the quality of a bean is hard to come by, so I understand this theory better than most. He makes conversation with you for coffee's sake, because the nicer he is to you the more you'll give a shit about his coffee. The third theory is, he is gay with his friend. His friend is not just a friend. They're in love and insomniacs. This is why they drink so much coffee. I understand this because my ex roommate and I are insomniacs. Though we are not gay, I understand that coffee is basically fuel. As you can see, none of these theories include him being in love with you. I think you've been reading too much Babysitter Club. Instead of imagining this gay/involved/coffee addicted man as your lover, log on to your tinder account and begin to swipe right. Only talk to those without shirtless pictures and who mention the word "cuddles" in their bio, these are the ones that have romantic thirst. Best, Legendofgustas Hi LoG, Weird seeing you here, thanks for making the trip over! I think you're right. Reading myself back it's pretty obvious that seeing him breaks up my working day and so has become a fixation, and him being friendly and coming in regularly was not evidence of anything other than him not being a huge jerk (uncommon in NYC) and having a caffeine addiction (not at all uncommon in NYC). I don't actually want to be in a relationship, it was more wanting him specifically. It was the Princess Zelda nickname that got me. I'm going to fixate on John instead. He's 67, widowed and very keen on "young tail". thanks again, BB ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ . ★ "Ava is my whole world. We've been best friends from the day she was born-- the two of us together, up against the world. Her father was in jail by the time she was born and last I heard he was back in again, I don't know and I don't care. We only needed each other. I was very young when I had her but she's the best thing that ever happened to me. I don't know how I wound up with such an angel of a daughter. When I was her age I was drinking every day of the week, getting myself pregnant.... Ava is at NYU, holds down a job and manages to have an active social life. I'm in awe of her. But apart from her brains, the thing I'm really grateful for is that she's just such a good kid. Friendly, charming, wouldn't say boo to a goose but doesn't take any shit... she's an inspiration to me and I need her to hurry up and come home."

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